There’s something I’ve noticed recently in my life, and it’s something I’ve become really passionate about—leaning into the Spirit of God’s voice and allowing Him to bring things full circle into a complete manifestation in my life.

I felt like it was something worth sharing, because maybe others have experienced it too—seen it, felt it, and sensed the Lord’s heart in it.

How We Learn Stability the Wrong Way

For a long time especially before I began working predominantly in recovery had a very specific idea of what it meant to be stable.

And I’m going to tie this to scripture, because to me, scripture is in everything. There is nothing in my life that I look at where I don’t see God His heart, His nature, His Word, His voice resounding in it.

But what I began to realize is this:

A mind that is unwell perceives stability very differently than someone whose heart and mind have actually become settled.

What I Thought Stability Was

I recently had a situation where I had to address some things with some of my clients. These weren’t things people were excited to deal with. They were things that people had avoided things they had learned to tell themselves were “okay.”

And as I was walking through that, I began to reflect on my own life.

If I look back five years ago, four years ago, even a year ago—my idea of stability was completely different.

At the time, I wouldn’t have been able to say it like this, but now I can see it clearly:

The more settled my heart became,
the more at rest my soul became,
the more I aligned with the image of Christ…

the more my expectation of what a stable life looked like began to change.

The Lie I Believed

There was a time where I truly believed that peace, stability, joy, and happiness were just slightly out of reach.

My mindset was:

• If I get this, then I’ll be happy.
• If I fix that, then I’ll be okay.

But what I failed to acknowledge is that true joy and true peace are not things we achieve…

They are things found in a place of rest.

Why We Don’t See It

And here’s what I began to understand:

Until the mind is renewed, we are not able to discern truth clearly.

That’s a hard pill to swallow especially for those of us who have leaned into spiritual things without addressing our internal framework.

Do I believe people can encounter God outside of that? Yes.

But sustained change real transformation, real stability comes through the renewing of the mind.

Because without that, we interpret everything through:

• our experiences
• our wounds
• our learned patterns

And we end up filtering truth through something that was never built on truth to begin with.

Delivered… But Not at Rest

The Bible says in the book of Hebrews that the Israelites were delivered out of Egypt, but they never entered into rest.

And that made me start asking:

What is this rest?

What does it actually mean to enter into it?

Because the Word tells us to strive to enter His rest—which sounds like a contradiction at first.

But the more I sat with it, the more I realized…

This is not about working to earn something.

This is about laying down everything that keeps us from trusting it.

When Chaos Becomes Normal

At one point in my life, chaos didn’t feel like chaos.

It felt normal.

And the reason for that wasn’t because it was good it was because it was familiar.

So when things were still…
when things were calm…
when things required me to slow down…

it didn’t feel like peace.

It felt uncomfortable.

Sometimes even unsafe.

The Life of Striving

When we haven’t entered into rest, we live a life of striving.

We are constantly:

• searching
• fixing
• fighting
• trying to figure everything out

We chase moments that we think will give us peace, joy, and love…

When in reality, those things are already found in rest.

The Only Thing We’re Told to Strive For

Scripture never tells us to strive for:

• position
• acceptance
• approval

But it does tell us to strive to enter into His rest.

Why?

Because we have to move through so much just to believe that rest actually holds what we’ve been searching for.

“The Lord Is My Shepherd”

I believe Psalm 23 gives us a picture of this.

“The Lord is my shepherd.”

That means I take the position of being led.

It means I trust:

• that what I need will be provided
• and what I don’t need will be removed

But here’s where we struggle:

We want the promises of Psalm 23…

without actually allowing ourselves to be shepherded.

Because being shepherded means letting go of our own framework.

Letting Go of Our Framework

For a long time, I believed it was my responsibility to figure everything out.

To find the answers.
To make things work.
To hold everything together.

But that mindset doesn’t produce stability.

It produces striving.

And striving is not rest.

What Stability Actually Looks Like

What I’ve come to understand is this:

Stability is not about everything going right.

It’s not about feeling good all the time.

It’s about being:

• rooted
• steady
• grounded

It’s about being able to bear fruit in every season.

Laying Down the Fight

As my understanding of stability has shifted, I’ve noticed something else:

I’ve started laying down battles that are not worth fighting.

Because the truth is:

I could fight every battle for the rest of my life…

But that’s my soul trying to be right.
That’s my soul trying to win.

And that…

is not stability.